How To Deal With Survivor Guilt In Your Retail Salesperson
I received this email, “Bob, my staff is going through your Sales Rx training. During one of the training sessions, we revealed a barrier that we need to address -guilt – of all things!
As we discussed barriers, one employee admitted that she sometimes feels guilty selling high-end items when she doesn’t think the customer can afford it. Yikes!!
Another said that she can relate to that. One employee’s husband was laid off by GM, another owned a store that closed a year ago, and we all have friends, neighbors and family facing financial hardship.
This was unexpected because these are both very friendly, social people and I would have expected them to breeze through the 5 step sales process. I don’t want my staff to feel guilty about helping customers buy high-end items, I don’t want customers to feel guilty about spending, and I don’t want anyone to feel guilty about us staying in business! Do you have any words of wisdom on how to slay the guilt monster?”
WOW! What a great topic and one that requires a lengthy answer.
Traditionally, “Survivor guilt” is the term used to describe the feelings of those who, fortunately, emerge from a disaster which mortally engulfs others. Could be as a result of an airplane crash like Nando Prado in the Andes, a downsizing of a company like GM or even the closing of a competitor on Main Street.
This business owner is from Michigan where the AP reported unemployment rates ranged from a low of 10.6 percent in Ann Arbor to a high of 17.4 percent in Flint. Of course people are scared.
Survivor’s guilt plays out by projecting our worries onto our customers. It’s like the salesperson adopts a losers limp. On an irrational level, these individuals wince at their privileged escape from death’s clutches or worry they are next.
There are 2 types of survivor guilt that affects sales:
- 1) “I caused it.” They think they contributed to the death of their business before and so are risk averse where they once were fearless.
- 2) “If only.” If only they had done something differently, they personally wouldn’t be in the mess they are personally in or if they had been able to predict the future, their siblings, friends, etc. would still have jobs.
But there’s one more that’s more insidious: self-image.
Do you remember the film Ruthless People where Judge Reinhold was trying to take advantage of a customer ? He felt sales was a win-lose situation, that he was getting a whole pile of money for the little value customers received. Here’s the clip [Warning: explicit language.]
I was pitching a huge casino in Las Vegas for a business makeover. They asked me if I knew what challenges they had, “Revenues are down, so you’re probably offering promotions to get people into the restaurants and bars on your property -loss leaders in the hopes of increasing sales. But your servers are only selling the discounted products, and you’re not making up the profits.”
The president asked, “How do you know that?”
“Because your servers are thinking, ‘ I wouldn’t pay 12 bucks for that drink or 30 bucks for that dinner, I couldn’t afford it I’m sure they can’t either.”
“You are right,” he answered.
When we prejudge what people can and can’t afford we’re shooting ourselves in the foot.
I had an employee who, when a frumpy dressed customer picked up a beaded leather vest and asked, “How much is this?” he replied, “More than you can afford.” She hastily replied, “How do you know how much I can afford?” He tried to cover-up and said, “Because I saw all those shopping bags you were caring and figured you probably were maxed out.”
Your employees gave you a gift by acknowledging they had “survivor’s guilt.” But the heart of the problem is how they feel like a sham selling at retail. Clerking is what they are comfortable with because their self-image doesnt’ allow them to put themselves out there to risk rejection.
Your opportunity is to show how selling is a win – win situation. That we are helping the customer buy what they already want. But you’re not manipulating people, taking advantage, or making them into some kind of at a sucker for purchasing the premium items. That we are all grownups and no one knows what another can afford. Maybe they’ve switched to generics in all of their grocery staples to afford the $100 LEGO Death Star for their daughter’s birthday. There’s no way of knowing.
Here’s how to do get over survivor guilt:
When training luxury retail sales, you have to make the point you have to sell the merch because you want your livelihood, your business to survive. Other businesses could have folded around you because they thought they could just keep doing what they’d done and they’d be fine.
You need to show your employees how their own preconceived ideas, biases and fears could very easily be pouring a bucket of water on a customer’s interest in the higher-priced items and causing the customer to question the purchase.
If they can’t get past this, you have to ask yourself, “How much do I want to be their psychologist and deal with their self image?” and “Is there anybody else out there who can help me sell at a profit?” If not, it may be time to move on without them.
This story originally appeared in my book The Retail Doctor’s Guide to Growing Your Business.